In Chengdu in Sichuan they gather in Lu Xun Park in the evening. In Shanghai gays cruise the Bund at sunset. Most cities have known places - restaurants, bars and parks - were gays open hang out. The Internet often is the safest place for gays and lesbians to interact and socialize because they can do so anonymously. But many gays choose to keep a foot in the closet.
There are many gay bars, newsletters and websites that can operate openly. Woman spying on two men Gays are more out than they were in past in China.